How To Handle Anger And Resentment In Marriage Part 1

Tia Brown from Healthy Marriage Ground

I founded this institution to help married couples across the world to overcome the challenges of their unions and remain stronger together. All counselling is scriptural based and will offer guidance and strength throughout all the stages of your marriage.

 

Marriage is a beautiful journey filled with love, but it's also a partnership where challenges arise—anger being one of them. It's something we all face, and how we handle it can either strengthen or strain our relationship. Today, I want to talk about understanding and managing anger in your marriage, emphasizing the importance of love and understanding over being at odds with each other.

Anger is a universal emotion, and it's important to remember that everyone deals with it. The key is to recognize that we are not just physical beings but also souls, deeply connected on a spiritual level. In marriage, this connection is essential. We must understand that while our bodies may react instinctively, our souls seek harmony and love.

Anger often stems from a perceived threat—whether to our safety, our ego, or feeling as though we are taken for granted. It’s a natural response, but it's crucial to realize that this reaction is often driven by fear. When anger arises, we could try not to view it as a sign of conflict but as an opportunity to pause and understand each other better.

Instead of letting anger drive a wedge between you and your spouse, take a step back. Remember that you are on the same team, and the love you share is far more important than any argument. Approach each situation with empathy, seeking to understand where your spouse is coming from. Communication is key—express your feelings without blaming the other person, and listen without judgment.

Marriage is about building a life together, and that means navigating the ups and downs with patience, love, and a deep commitment to each other. So, when anger arises, let it be a reminder of the love that brought you together and the bond that keeps you strong. In the next part, we'll dive into practical steps to manage and diffuse anger. This will help you to grow even closer as a couple.