How To Communicate In Your Marriage

 

I am Tia Brown, a born-again Christian who has experienced the transformative power of God's guidance in restoring my marriage. Through faith and perseverance, I've witnessed the healing of our union, and today, I want to share insights on how to begin communicating in a broken marriage.

First, it's essential to recognize that a broken marriage is the core issue, and poor communication is often a symptom of deeper problems. Our focus should be on restoring your marriage and filling it with love and endurance. The way we communicate can either build a lasting, joyful relationship or further harm it.

Consider this: what negative patterns are currently affecting your communication? Perhaps there's criticism, complaining, condemnation, or a focus on selfish desires—statements like "I need this" or "I want that." These are toxic to a marriage.

In today's world, there's a strong emphasis on the need to be heard, to have our voices acknowledged. However, this mindset can be detrimental to a happy, healthy marriage. Instead of focusing on being heard, why not shift to a mindset of selflessness, where the emphasis is on truly listening to your partner? The essence of a strong marriage lies in selflessness.

I invite you to try a simple experiment over the next three days. Commit to eliminating all toxic communication—no criticism, no complaints, no unkind remarks. Replace these with loving support, recognition, compliments, and expressions of appreciation. Appreciation is powerful; a simple "Thank you, I appreciate what you did" can inspire your partner to offer more support and go the extra mile.

For the next three days, focus solely on removing negativity from your communication. Avoid criticism, condemnation, and complaints, and watch how this small shift can bring a glimmer of hope to your marriage.

I encourage you to try this and see the difference it makes. Let me know how it goes—I’m here to support you on this journey to a stronger, happier marriage.